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“But you reached a stage where you realized it was a waste of energy trying to change your parents’ minds about anything, ever.”

Book:A Spot of Bother

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A Spot of Bother

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Mark Haddon

Mark Haddon is a renowned British novelist known for his unique narrative style and profound psychological insights. His works often explore complex human nature and social issues from a child's perspective. Born on September 26, 1962, in the United Kingdom, his debut novel 'The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time' was published in 2003 and received widespread acclaim. more

“It is also a part of "poisonous pedagogy" to impart to the child from the beginning false information and beliefs that have been passed on from generation to generation and dutifully accepted by the young even though they are not only unproven but are demonstrably false. Examples of such beliefs are: 1. A feeling of duty produces love. 2. Hatred can be done away with by forbidding it. 3. Parents deserve respect simply because they are parents. 4. Children are undeserving of respect simply because they are children. 5. Obedience makes a child strong. 6. A high degree of self-esteem is harmful. 7. A low degree of self-esteem makes a person altruistic. 8. Tenderness (doting) is harmful. 9. Responding to a child's needs is wrong. 10. Severity and coldness are a good preparation for life. 11. A pretense of gratitude is better than honest ingratitude. 12. The way you behave is more important than the way you really are. 13. Neither parents nor God would survive being offended. 14. The body is something dirty and disgusting. 15. Strong feelings are harmful. 16. Parents are creatures free of drives and guilt. 17. Parents are always right.”

Trauma Parents Child Abuse

Book:For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

Source: For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

“We've learned from this that death can hurt us. It can surprise us. It can scare us. It can keep us up a night. But we've also learned the things that death cannot do. It cannot crush our hopes. It cannot take away the love and support of our family and friends. It cannot make us lose our unending faith in world and in God. It has saddened us, but it will not prevail.”

Death

Book:Where Things Come Back

Source: Where Things Come Back

“But the truth is... I mean... I haven't said this. But... I think the problem is not my father so much as my fear of being my father. Like if I run away too hard from him I will become something else that is also problematic.”

Parents On Fathers

Book:Circle Mirror Transformation

Source: Circle Mirror Transformation