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“You can't take the leaps of vulnerability involved in working through early emotional injuries while you are feeling emotionally unsafe. Because you are emotionally unsafe. And if you succeed in acheiving greater intimacy with your abusive partner, you will soon get hurt even worse than before, because greater closeness means greater vulnerability for you.”

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Book:Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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Lundy Bancroft
Lundy Bancroft

Lundy Bancroft is a renowned author specializing in the fields of domestic violence and intimate relationship education and research. His work aims to help people understand and address domestic violence issues, support victims, and educate the public to raise awareness of the problem. more

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