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“Dr. Stern’s explanation of how to identify this kind of covert emotional control and abuse, and how to resist it, is a very important tool for young women in particular to use, if they wish to safeguard their emotional well-being, resist others’ efforts to control and manipulate them, and choose relationships that support and nurture their development.”

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Book:The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life
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