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“The reality is that most of us communicate the same way that we grew up. That communication style becomes our normal way of dealing with issues, our blueprint for communication. It’s what we know and pass on to our own children. We either become our childhood or we make a conscious choice to change it.”

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Book:The Gift of Past Relationships
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Book:Dream Me Home Safely: Writers on Growing Up in America – Intimate Essays on Diverse Childhoods
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Author:Lorrie Moore
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