“Like childhood, old age is irresponsible, reckless, and foolhardy. Children and old people have everything to gain and nothing much to lose. It's middle-age which is cursed by the desperate need to cling to some finger-hold halfway up the mountain, to conform, not to cause trouble, to behave well.” PeopleNeedsWellsChildrenAgeCausesLosesTroubleChildhoodMiddleMountainGainsFingersOld AgeBehaveDesperateConformOld PeopleMiddle AgesHalfwayRecklessIrresponsibleCursedFoolhardy Book:Murderers and Other Friends: Another Part of Life Source: Murderers and Other Friends: Another Part of Life
“Love involves more than just feelings. It is also a way of behaving. When Sandy said, "My parents don't know how to love me," she was saying that they don't know how to behave in loving ways. If you were to ask Sandy's parents, or almost any other toxic parents, if they love their children, most of them would answer emphatically that they do. Yet, sadly, most of their children have always felt unloved. What toxic parents call "love" rarely translates into nourishing, comforting behavior.” IfsKnowsWayChildrenSaidFeelingsAsksFeltParentAnswersHealingKnow HowBehaviorBehaveToxicTeensTranslateComfortingHow To LoveUnlovedSandy Author:Susan Forward
“I think the biggest difference is that I've noticed Western parents seem much more concerned about their children's psyches, their self-esteem, whereas tough immigrant parents assume strength rather than fragility in their children and therefore behave completely differently.” ThinkingChildrenSelfSeemsParentDifferencesSelf EsteemToughConcernedAssumingWesternEsteemBehaveImmigrantsFragilityPsychImmigrant Parents Author:Amy Chua
“Much research in psychology has been more concerned with how large groups of people behave than about the particular ways in which each individual person thinks... too statistical. I find this disappointing because, in my view of the history of psychology, far more was learned, for example, when Jean Piaget spent several years observing the ways that three children developed, or when Sigmund Freud took several years to examine the thinking of a rather small number of patients.” PeopleThinkingWayYearsChildrenPersonsHas BeensThreeIndividualViewsNumbersPsychologyGroupsExampleParticularResearchConcernedPatientBehaveObservingDisappointingSmall NumbersLarge Groups Author:Jean Piaget
“I suppose partially because of the success of the early movies and things like that, I began to realize, that children do look up to you in some way, and there is a responsibility for how you behave with them. I know that it's important to make them feel very valuable, not to talk down to them.” KnowsWayFeelsLooksChildrenImportantRealizingResponsibilityValuableBehaveLook UpUp To You Author:Julie Andrews