“Engulfment is a moment of hypnosis.” DespairFulfillmentEngulfment Book:A lover's discourse: fragments Source: A lover's discourse: fragments
“What scares us ultimately may not be closeness itself but the feelings it evokes. For someone with a fear of engulfment, closeness may set in motion an old, familiar cycle in which closeness led to abandonment or abuse. Now we believe, cellularly though not necessarily intellectually, that if someone gets close, he will abandon or abuse us.” RelationshipsPsychologyAbuseAbandonmentClosenessEngulfment Book:亲密关系的重建 Source: 亲密关系的重建