“Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.” GivingTruthGamesPeaceGrowthHurtFreedomCompassionCreativityPrideConfidenceSelf LoveProudEgoForgivenessDignityHatredAngerValueObviousRevengeInner PeaceSpiritual GrowthRepentanceBitternessRebelIgnoredStubbornNew BeginningsBetrayedAccomplishmentsLow Self EsteemThe PastMove OnSelf HatredBroken HeartedDumpedReal ValueLive FreeForgiving OthersStart OverHidden AgendasSeeking ApprovalBlindsightedInner JoyBlown OffFalse ConfidenceProving WorthTruth FollowerErasing The PastFalse WorthRestituitionSteps Of Repentance Author:Shannon L. Alder
“The source to low self-esteem is the lack of control you feel you have in your life. If you spend your life competing with others, trying to make right the wrongs done to you, or waste your time trying to look right, you will never achieve contentment and emotional balance. People you encounter in life can’t be controlled by you. You only have control of yourself. Build your life around a relationship with a higher power and achieving what you’re passionate about. When you let go of what you can’t control, true peace can then enter your life. This is the path to achieving emotional balance.” MenLife LessonsWomenRelationshipsFreedomChristianityCareersWorrySelf EsteemPerspectiveBuddhismConfidenceSelf LoveBalanceLetting GoAnxietyDignityAdversityCompetitionSelf WorthMoving OnSelf RespectPietySpiritual AwakeningEmotional PainAuthentic SelfWrong ReasonsWorldlinessTrue PeaceInsecuritiesSeeing YourselfHidden AgendasEmotional BalanceRole Model For KidsRole Model For TeenagersNeed For ControlNeed To Be RightFalse ConfidenceSeeing OthersFalse RighteousnessSatan S TrickNeed To Compete Author:Shannon L. Alder
“People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this "network of life" and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.” LifeCharacterValuesChoicesAttitudeHistorySelf HelpPrideSadEgoForgivenessEmotionsNegativeHatredTestsAdversityFoolishTrialsUnhappyDenialProblemsSuperiorityStubbornSelf ReflectionBrokennessAnger ManagementComputersRelationships 101Self RighteousnessJudgementalBad AttitudeUnforgivingLife ChallengesStayingpositiveu ComBlaming OthersSpiritual HealthDoormatSpiritual DeathLack Of CompassionInternalizingRebootHard HeartedBlindsightedFalse ConfidenceChanging PerspectiveFalse Ego Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Chasing a man is not winning. The only thing you win is the loss of your dignity. Confidence is knowing your value, instead of expecting a man’s love to provide you with value.” MenLoveTruthGamesWomenRelationshipsSadLetting GoEgoLosingEmpowermentDignityDatingCompetitionValueSelf WorthMistakesMoving OnDesperateSelf RespectDelusionDogsPatheticTeenagersForgettingLow Self EsteemRevelationDating AdviceWasted TimeMarriagesCheatersStaying PositiveBad KarmaObservationsPlayersExamplesBetrayersFalse HappinessThe Good LifeLesson In LifeFalse ConfidenceOn SaleRegaining ControlExitingBargain Basement PricesEye OpenersLack Of ValuePositive Women Author:Shannon L. Alder