“One of the many, many things I hate about war is how it trivializes the personal. The big themes, the broad sweep, the emergency measures, the national identity, all the things that a particular kind of man with a particular kind of power urge adores, these are the things that become important. War gives the lie to the personal, drowns it in meetings, alarms, sacrifices. The personal is only allowed to return as death.” MenGivingKindImportantWarBigsLyingHateSacrificeIdentityParticularHe ManReturnI HateMeetingsThemeUrgesBroadsAdoreEmergenciesAlarmsNational IdentityThings I Hate Author:Jeanette Winterson
“The man, or the boy, in his development is psychologically deterred from incorporating serving characteristics by an easily observable fact: there are already people around who are clearly meant to serve and they are girls and women. To perform the activities these people are doing is to risk being, and being thought of, and thinking of oneself, as a woman. This has been made a terrifying prospect and has been made to constitute a major threat to masculine identity.” PeopleThinkingMenHas BeensMadeFactsGirlWomenBoysRiskIdentityHe ManDevelopmentActivityMajorsThreatOneselfCharacteristicsServingMasculineIncorporating Book:Toward a New Psychology of Women Source: Toward a New Psychology of Women
“The writer's ultimate purpose is to use his gifts to develop man's awareness of himself so that he, man, can become a better instrument for living together with other men. This sense of identity is the root by which all honest creative effort is fed.” MenUseTogetherPurposeEffortCreativeHonestAwarenessIdentityHe ManRootsUltimateInstrumentsFedsLiving Together Author:Jay Saunders Redding
“I hated being "Mrs." from the first second each time. I didn't know why. All I knew was how uncomfortable it felt. I hated being one half of a couple, without understanding that it wasn't the husband or the man I hated, it was situation, the identity.” KnowsMenFirstsFeltUnderstandingHalfSituationIdentityHe ManCoupleHusbandHatedUncomfortableOne Half Author:Vivian Gornick