“The trouble with these times wasn't even really the individual scenarios or men themselves, but the societal conditioning that surrounded our two bodies. I would put pressure on myself, for I had been socialised to please, socialised to find it easier to get it over and done with. The men would be socialised to seek pleasure first, to touch before asking. I would usually be seeking validation or a way to rewrite the endings of my own traumatic past. These unplaceable times would often find our gendered selves falling into our written roles. Was it the drink leading us to lazily fit our stereotypes, or perhaps the inherent pressure of modern intimacy?” SexRelationshipsHookup Culture Book:The Way We Survive: Notes on Rape Culture Source: The Way We Survive: Notes on Rape Culture
“So, if there was sex on a first encounter—and most of these weren’t even dates, just parties—you couldn’t convince a jury it was rape, not get to beyond a reasonable doubt.” SexRapeSexual AssaultTrigger WarningHookupHookup Culture Book:Insufficient Evidence Source: Insufficient Evidence