“A personal offense is like a scratch on a phonograph record. I couldn't move my thoughts beyond my pain. It kept repeating, as if I were stuck within its grooves. There was only one way to play beyond it. I had to forgive them, so my heart could take its form again.” IfsWayHeartPlayPainMovingFormRecordsMy HeartForgivingStuckOne WayOffenseMy ThoughtsScratchesGroovePhonograph Author:Laurel Lea
“You know, we have moments of passion when we are in pain. And then of course the moment ends, and with it the passion and the pain, and we forgive and forget. But I think that every time you hurt somebody that you care for, a crack appears in your relationship, a little weakening - and it stays there, dangerous, waiting for the next opportunity to open up and destroy everything.” ThinkingKnowsLittlesEndsMomentsCarePainPassionCoursesNextOpportunityWaitingHurtForgetDangerousForgivingCracksOur RelationshipWeakeningForgive And Forget Author:Edith Hahn Beer
“A child who's been injured by a parent waits her whole life for some acknowledgment of the wrong that's been done, some validation from him that her pain is real, that he's sorry and will make amends. The child will wait forever, unable to move forward, unable to forgive, without someone to acknowledge the past. In that powerlessness comes a terrible rage.” ChildrenRealDoneWholePainPastMovingWaitingParentForeverTerribleForgivingSorryRageWhole LifeMoving ForwardAcknowledgeInjuredValidationPowerlessnessAcknowledgmentAmendsUnable To Forgive Book:Four Thrillers by Lisa Unger: Beautiful Lies, Sliver of Truth, Black Out, Die for You Source: Four Thrillers by Lisa Unger: Beautiful Lies, Sliver of Truth, Black Out, Die for You
“I worry about fast forgivers. They tend to forgive quickly in order to avoid their pain. Or they forgive fast in order to get an advantage over the people they forgive. And their instant forgiving only makes things worse... People who have been wronged badly and wounded deeply should give themselves time and space before they forgive... There is a right moment to forgive. We cannot predict it in advance; we can only get ourselves ready for it when it arrives... Don't do it quickly, but don't wait too long.” PeopleGivingShouldLongHas BeensMomentsPainOrderWaitingSpaceWorryReadyForgivenessAdvantageForgivingInstantWoundedTime And SpaceRight MomentWronged Author:Lewis B. Smedes
“Take it slowly. The deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. We think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving. Acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. Forgiveness means that you've decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.” IfsThinkingMeanPainEasyChallengesHurtPowerfulSupportHonorCircumstancesForgivenessToolsDecidedForgivingCome UpExtremesAcknowledgeResentmentNot ForgivingFesteringHurt And PainProtecting Ourselves Author:Howard Martin
“I performed wound care or minor surgery, I would always apologize for any pain I was causing the animal and they would lick my hand and not bite me out of anger due to the pain. They are also far more forgiving than people are of human beings and other animals.” PeopleHumansHandsCarePainHuman BeingsAnimalForgivingDuesWoundsBitesMinorsApologizingSurgeryBite Me Author:Bernie Siegel
“You are full of love. You love with all of your soul. It's brighter than the fire ... blinding. That's why you pull away from it ... Love is pain ... Love ... give ... forgive. Risk the pain. It is your nature.” GivingSoulPainLove IsFireRiskLove YouForgivingYour SoulBrighterLove PainLove Is Pain Author:Jane Espenson