“We don't seek the painful experiences that hew our identities, but we seek our identities in the wake of painful experiences. We cannot bear a pointless torment, but we can endure great pain if we believe that it's purposeful. Ease makes less of an impression on us than struggle. We could have been ourselves without our delights, but not without the misfortunes that drive our search for meaning. 'Therefore, I take pleasure in infirmities,' St. Paul wrote in Second Corinthians, 'for when I am weak, then I am strong.'” IfsBelieveHas BeensMotivationalPainStrongPleasureStruggleIdentityBearsWeakEndurePainfulDelightImpressionEaseMisfortunesTormentCould Have BeenPointlessSearch For MeaningInfirmityI Am StrongCorinthiansPainful Experiences Author:Andrew Solomon
“The immersive stories of This Is Paradise are a lithe blend of formal invention and traditional narrative pleasures. As such they reflect Kristiana Kahakauwila's intimate but expansive vision of a Hawai'i forged from the collisions of past and present, here and there. Her protagonists are as richly distinctive as the pidgin they speak, and yet each struggles profoundly with identity-that negotiation between ourselves and the world, which is at once Hawaiian, American, universally and compellingly human.” WorldHumansStoriesPastSpeakPleasureVisionStruggleIdentityInventionTraditionalNarrativeIntimateParadiseFormalNegotiationHere And ThereDistinctiveProtagonistsPast And PresentCollisionForgedHawaiians Author:Peter Ho Davies
“To me, a person's identity is composed of both an 'I' and a 'we.' The 'I' finds itself in love, work, and pleasure, but it also locates itself within some meaningful group identity - a tribe, a community, a 'we.' America is too big and bland a tribe for most of us.” PersonsBigsAmericaCommunityPleasureGroupsIdentityMeaningfulTribesBlandGroup Identity Author:Letty Cottin Pogrebin
“human beings seem to hold on more tenaciously to a cultural identity that is learned through suffering than to one that has been acquired through pleasure and delight.” HumansHas BeensSeemsSufferingCultureHuman BeingsPleasureIdentityDelightCultural Identity Book:Culture and Commitment Source: Culture and Commitment
“I knew what it felt like to have no say in who you were as a sexual being. It didn't just strip away your dignity. It stripped away everything you were: your identity, your self-respect, your pleasure. Because it was all about the pleasure of the other person take, take, taking whatever they wanted from you, even if it was uncomfortable, or caused you pain. Even if you died from it, the other person still wouldn't care, because it was all about them.” IfsPersonsStillsSelfCareWantedPainFeltPleasureIdentityDignityDiedUncomfortableSelf Respect Author:Jess C Scott
“...Iknow the bitter fact that most lives are incredibly wasted, that opportunities for developing identity, for receiving pleasure, for achieving a sense of self-worth are limited and, not only underdeveloped, but in most cases not developed at all--because no one thinks that a housewife, or a mother, or a typist has anything to develop.” ThinkingSelfFactsMotherOpportunityPleasureCasesAchieveIdentitySelf WorthBitterDevelopingReceivingSense Of SelfHousewife Author:Irena Klepfisz
“Whether outside work is done by choice or not, whether women seek their identity through work, whether women are searching for pleasure or survival through work, the integration of motherhood and the world of work is a source of ambivalence, struggle, and conflict for the great majority of women.” WorldDoneChoicesPleasureStruggleIdentitySourceConflictSurvivalMajorityMotherhoodIntegrationAmbivalence Book:Worlds apart: relationships between families and schools Source: Worlds apart: relationships between families and schools