“Have no shame ... as another woman friend of mine counseled with perfect sincerity and cheer: 'Just gain the 25 pounds. I really think I would not have survived menopause--AND the death of my mother--without having gained these 25 pounds.' [quoting Sandra Tsing Loh's 'The Madwoman in the Volvo']” DeathMotherLossWeightShameCheerMenopauseMadwomanSandra Tsing Loh Book:What Fresh Hell Is This?: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You Source: What Fresh Hell Is This?: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You