“Decades later, Buechner came to the following realization: “The trouble with steeling yourself against the harshness of reality is that the same steel that secures your life against being destroyed secures your life also against being opened up and transformed by the holy power that life itself comes from.” LifeRealityGriefLivingTransformationHardnessHardeningSteeling Yourself Book:How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen Source: How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen