“We believe that whatever feels at first like joy is not. Or is, but will not last. Or should not last. We feel so sure of this that we will undermine our own inklings of joy, blunting the pain we think awaits.” ThinkingFeelsShouldFirstsBelievePainLastsJoy Book:Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself Source: Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself
“We care. We feel. We think. We do not always miss the absent one. We cannot always come when called. Being friends with a loner requires patience and the wisdom that distance does not mean dislike.” ThinkingFeelsMeanDoeCareMissingDistanceDislikeAbsentMissing SomeoneLonerHermitsRecluseLong Distance Friendship Author:Anneli Rufus
“Socializing is as exhausting as giving blood. People assume we loners are misanthropes, just sitting thinking, ‘Oh, people are such a bunch of assholes,’ but it’s really not like that. We just have a smaller tolerance for what it takes to be with others. It means having to perform. I get so tired of communicating.” PeopleThinkingGivingMeanBloodSittingTiredAssumingCommunicateToleranceBunchExhaustingLonerSocializingMisanthropeGiving Blood Author:Anneli Rufus