“[Self-deception] is a condition where your perception is systematically distorted in your favor. We also call it having an inward mindset. Most of us won't even see that we have this problem because we need the twisted perception to feel justified when we fail to see and respond to the humanity of others. To find justification, we tend to view ourselves as either better than or worse than the people around us.” Self Deception Book:Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box Source: Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box
“In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects.They either count like we do or they don't. In the former case we regard them as we regard ourselves, we say our hearts are at peace toward them. In the latter case, since we systematically view them as inferior, we say our hearts are at war.” Treating Others Like You Book:The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict Source: The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict