“In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects.They either count like we do or they don't. In the former case we regard them as we regard ourselves, we say our hearts are at peace toward them. In the latter case, since we systematically view them as inferior, we say our hearts are at war.” Treating Others Like You Book:The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict Source: The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict