“When you let go of all that is causing you pain and distress, you let go of your unhappiness too. Sometimes, it may be people who make you unhappy. So move away from such people. At other times, it may be the choices that you have made that make you unhappy. So let go of the past – it is over, you can’t undo it. There may also be situations where you cannot fix the core issue that is causing all your pain and agony. When you can’t fix a problem yourself, let go of your desire to fix it. When you let go, when you uncling from whatever it is that is holding you hostage, you set yourself free. When you let go, you actually let Happiness in!” DesireLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLet GoMove OnThe Happynesswalas Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“If it is meant for you, it will come to you. It will find you and reach you. So, don’t despair when, despite your best intention and effort, something does not happen the way you envisioned it and planned it. Take it easy. Of course, you have every right to have an intention, put forth a plan and execute it, but you have no right to insist that just because you did all that you must get what you want. The outcomes are never in your hand. The idea that you deserve something is what you have grown within you. So, drop that idea. Just do your bit, and do it well, in any situation. And leave the results, the outcomes, to Life. If you must get it, you will. When you do, be grateful for Life’s compassion. When you don’t, be accepting of Life’s verdict.” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityCompassionAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGo With The Flow Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Drop the 'why' and ‘why me’ questions. Stop asking ‘why’ and ‘why me’ in the context of your Life situation. Then you will not suffer. The pain will be intense. But you will not suffer. You cannot avoid pain, but you can choose not to suffer. Suffering comes from asking 'why’, ‘why me'. Suffering always magnifies the pain. Choosing to be non-suffering does not take away the pain. But it helps immensely in coping with the pain.” PainHappinessLife LessonsSufferingSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Life’s not easy by any means. But it is simple. It surely is not complex. We complicate Life by bringing in our wants, our definitions, and our labels, of how people and events must be. Life’s very simple if we just accept it for the way it is. The journey then will not be any less painful. But there will be no suffering. When you are non-suffering, your Life, despite the circumstances, is a daily celebration of magic, beauty and miracles!” HappinessLife LessonsSufferingAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaNon SufferingFall Like A Rose Petal Pain Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“No matter how hard you try, or wish, or pray, you cannot change the Life that you have in the moment. So, first, accept what is. And then go to work on changing the parts about your Life that you don’t like. When you resist what is, you suffer. Being non-suffering is a choice. This is intelligent living. This holds the key to Happiness.” HappinessLife LessonsSufferingPrayerAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalasIntelligent Living Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Acceptance does not necessarily help you solve a problem. But acceptance helps you immensely in dealing with it, in making you non-suffering. When you resist a situation, you are fighting it. Whatever you resist, will fight back. Such is Life. All your suffering comes from wishing that your Life is different from what it is. So, in addition to the intense pain that the situation has thrown up, you have now invited suffering into your Life by wishing that the painful situation did not exist in the first place. Instead, embrace the situation. Gracefully accept your Life for what it is. Then, slowly, very slowly, time heals, peeling off layer after layer of suffering, as you understand the futility of prolonged sadness. As your suffering and sadness dissolve, you feel repaired, happy and at peace with your new reality.” PainHappinessLife LessonsSufferingAcceptanceInner PeaceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Each one’s pain is different. You can empathize with them but you cannot always understand what someone is going through. Even if they are a long-time companion, a sibling, a parent or a child. No amount of empathy can help the other person either. They have to go through what they have to go through. Ultimately, everyone has to deal with their pain themselves; they have to understand it, negotiate with it and accept it. Acceptance does not take away the pain, but it instantaneously frees you of all suffering. So, if you you love someone who is dealing with intense pain, encourage them to embrace it; help them to be non-suffering. Being non-suffering holds the key to Happiness.” PainHappinessLife LessonsSufferingAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“No matter what you are going through, the process of Life is beautiful. It may be challenging, painful and, at times, agonizingly slow. Or it may flow freely, generously, bringing you all that you want. But, unfailingly, Life never ceases to amaze or surprise. It is this inscrutable quality of Life that makes the process beautiful. When you accept the process of Life for what it is, for the way it is, unquestioningly, you see its beauty. That’s how you learn to be happy despite the circumstances.” PainHappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“You cannot negotiate with pain. You simply have to accept it. When you accept Life for what it is, and accept pain for the way it is, you discover inner peace, contentment and Happiness.” PainHappinessLife LessonsFaithSpiritualityAcceptancePatienceAvis ViswanathanAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“In any situation, acceptance is always the first step to inner peace. And if you can't fix what you wish to fix, then acceptance is the only step, the only way to be happy despite the circumstances.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceInner PeaceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaIntelligent Living Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Anything can happen in Life. Absolutely anything. When you try to approach a challenging situation in your Life with logic, and try to reason why things are the way they are, you will often not find the answers you are looking for. That’s when you will awaken to the inscrutability and suchness of Life. And it is in accepting the suchness of Life that you discover inner peace and Happiness.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceInner PeaceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLook WithinInscrutability Of Life Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Sometimes Life will hang you at the edge of the precipice. And fear will grip you. You will not know what to think, say or do. But don’t despair. You see, Life has always been and is intrinsically risky. Your education and your money trick you into a fake sense of security. But look at what Manohar Parrikar, who passed away yesterday, had to say: “You are alone in the final act of the drama when the end of the show is visible. Nothing, and no one, can help you.” Such is Life. It has always been fraught with uncertainty and has never been in your control. So, don’t fear dead-ends or no-go Life situations. Face your fears, gracefully accept the darkness. Learn to hang from that precipitous edge, live dangerously – and when you do that, you will, interestingly, not feel scared, instead you will feel calm, content and happy!” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceInner PeaceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Everything happens in its own time, place and pace. You may wish for something to happen. Or you may wish against its happening. But you cannot force the outcome. What has to happen alone happens – always! So, go with the flow. Understand that it is what it is. Accept every happening in your Life that you didn’t want, and which you dislike, as your new normal and keep going. This is what intelligent living is all about. It doesn’t change any reality but frees you from unhappiness, from misery. It helps you anchor in peace and be happy no matter how challenging your circumstances are.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceInner PeaceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“There’s a part of all of us that is always wanting to be warm, willing to adjust, open to accommodate and ready to tolerate. But let all the warmth, adjustment, accommodation and tolerating happen at a material level. And let it stop there. Please don’t allow anyone to affect your dignity just because they are older to you or more powerful – whoever they are, even if they are a parent, sibling or spouse. Because when you allow that you end up becoming intensely unhappy. And, more often than not, you suffer silently. Let this be your guiding light – your inner peace and happiness are the only wealth you have, so, protect them till your last breath!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceInner PeaceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Everything in Life happens in its own time and at its own pace. When you understand this truth about Life, you will realize that keeping the faith and being patient are key to being happy with what is, in the now.” HappinessLife LessonsFaithAcceptancePatienceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLiving In The Now Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“2 + 2 doesn’t always add up to 4 in Life. Integrity and hard work, for instance, don’t always deliver (worldly) success no matter how talented you are. Which is why faith and patience are critical on the journey. So, trust the process of Life. And be patient. Over time, you will learn to love the Life that you have. And, eventually, what you want will flow to you, on its own.” HappinessLife LessonsFaithSpiritualityAcceptancePatienceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“There will be times in Life when you will not be understood. When no one will believe in you. People, circumstances and events will all appear to be going against you. That’s when you must soldier on, with faith . When there is no hope, when there is no light, when there appears to be no way forward, that’s when faith comes into play. Anchor in faith. Not through religion or ritual. But have faith in yourself, in a higher energy, and trust the process of Life. Your faith will never lead you astray. It will not show you the way either. Having faith is the way to live intelligently, happily.” Life LessonsFaithAcceptancePatienceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalasIntelligent Living Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Life = a series of complex, inscrutable, events, relationships, that in turns, bring joy and grief. The only way to deal with Life when it becomes challenging is to flow with it, with graceful acceptance. Accept that there are and there will be imperfections. Deal with them, with faith, with patience, to the best of your abilities…and keep flowing…gracefully accepting what is and working calmly on what can be…” HappinessFaithAcceptancePatienceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaCovid19 Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Letting go is not being defeatist. It is not giving up on Life. Letting go is giving in to Life. It is going with the flow of Life.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGo With The FlowFall Like A Rose Petal Let Go Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“No amount of kicking around or being angry with Life, with your environment or with your world, can change your current reality. It is always what it is. If you don’t like how things are, first accept them for what they are. Then, efficiently, resolutely, take charge, channelize your anger, and work on changing what you dislike. That’s the only way to make your Life better. That’s the only way to Happiness.” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaDecisive Action Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“No matter what you are going through, spend a few minutes each day to be grateful for who you still have, and for what you still have, in your Life.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceGratitudeThank YouAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaThe Happynesswalas Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Let others think, say or do as they please. If you obsess over others, or over what they think of or say about you, remember, you may have no time to live your Life. And, of course, you will be terribly, terribly unhappy!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLet GoThe Happynesswalas Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Trust the process of Life. There is a lot of action when you are trusting the process. It is a present continuous state of non-resistance. It involves doing whatever you can do in a given context and allowing yourself to be led by Life. You will then witness the magic and beauty of Life leading you to where you must arrive.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessAhimsaThe HappynesswalasNon Resistance Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“No matter how much you believe you can or want to help someone, you cannot live their Life for them. Everyone’s journey, their design, is unique. They have to go through what they have to go through. If you cannot add value in a specific context, step out of it gracefully. That way you are giving the other person space and protecting your inner peace.” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityGraceAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“No matter what you are going through, no matter what you think is going to happen, stay anchored and engaged with the process of Life. Accept the inscrutable, imponderable, brutal reality of your Life. And take one day at a time. That’s how you stay in the game (of Life). And as long as you are in the game, well, anything is possible!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaEquanimityThe HappynesswalasStay In The Game Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“What goes down always comes up and what comes up always goes down. Such is Life. Celebrate its suchness. And keep flowing with Life. Sometimes reaping rich dividends and sometimes feeling good you have either cushioned well for a loss or learning that you could have cushioned better. Enjoy the ride!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLet Go Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Your problem is yours alone. For others, it is just information, news, gossip – or even just a distant happening or event. So, don’t expect others to understand your situation better than you do.” ProblemHappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Acceptance is a great state to be in. It surely does not make a problem disappear. But the struggle stops. The ‘Why?’, ‘Why Me?’, questions die down. There is complete calm. When there is calm, there is focus, there is a sharpness. When you are focused, you invest yourself in solving the problem. You stop complaining about the problem. When you are non-complaining, you are at peace; you are happy with what is.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“When you learn to flow with Life, you discover the way to just be. When you simply are, you are happy!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGo With The FlowJust Be Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Everyone has to go through what they have to go through. So, prayer, surrender, being in the moment, doing your best in every moment… that is the only way to live intelligently...there is no other way!” HappinessLife LessonsPrayerAcceptanceSurrenderAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Ultimately, only what is to happen, happens. No amount of kicking around, resisting, fighting, fretting and fuming can change the design. So, simply, learn to understand, appreciate and accept this design. Learn to be unprovoked, undisturbed and unmoved. This is how you can be happy despite your circumstances.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGo With The Flow Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Everything eventually works out – in its own time, at its own pace, in its own way.” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessGo With The FlowThe Happyness Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“When you learn to stop resisting pain, you learn the art of acceptance. And it is only through accepting what is that you learn to be happy despite your circumstances.” PainHappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Life is a continuous process of learning to live with what is.” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Denial is often seen as an aggressive state; it need not be…often you deny subtly, pushing away (under the carpet) what you don’t want to see. And when you finally accept what you have been denying, you realize you have squandered so much precious time. Must you, really, do it that way? On the other hand, accepting what is, always, unfailingly, leads you to Happiness.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceDenialAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Don’t try to solve all your problems at the same time. You really can’t. Instead surrender to the flow of Life. Do whatever you can in your situation, diligently, to the best of your ability and let Life lead you onward. Everything, always, happens only in its own time and at its own pace!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceSurrenderAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLet Go Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“The best way to live Life is to flow with it; accepting what is, making sincere efforts to repair whatever needs fixing and trusting the process...” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGoing With The Flow Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“There are no constraints in Life when you learn to flow with it. Flowing is an important quality to be embraced. It is an art. You can and must learn it. When you are flowing with Life, you are not resisting it; therefore, there is no conflict. Whatever is, you are accepting it and are going with the flow of Life. This does not mean you must not work towards changing what you don’t like about your Life. It means that while you are working on changing your current reality, you are willing to be led by the process of Life. This is a beautiful state to be in – contentment, inner peace and Happiness are guaranteed!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGo With The Flow Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Happiness is not about having the "perfect" Life that you have always imagined and dreamed of...Happiness is, simply, learning to accept Life with its imperfections and living fully with what is!” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“You are unlikely to find the perfect Life that you want. Even so, you can live fully with what you have, with what you have been given. And you do that by looking Life squarely in the eye, by facing it and by accepting what is, by learning to be happy despite the circumstances.” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityFearAcceptanceResilienceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“The ability to “take Life as it comes” is a blessing. This wisdom can only come from having experienced pain and from understanding the power of acceptance.” PainHappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Pain is not a monster that is out to annihilate you as is popularly believed. Pain is a great teacher. While you can’t avoid pain, it teaches you, through your acceptance of any Life situation, that suffering is optional; that there is a lot of Life during and after a crisis. Truly, acceptance of a painful situation is the only way to deal with it.” PainHappinessLife LessonsSufferingAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Don’t intellectualize Life. Not everything has a scientific, rational, logical reason to it. Beyond a point, Life is largely inscrutable. 2+2 does not often add up to 4 in Life and you can’t find the answer to some questions – particularly to the why and why me questions! It is always what it is. Life does not happen because you planned it in a certain way. It so happens that sometimes your plans are in sync with Life’s plans for you. So you end up thinking – given your education and your economic power – that you are controlling your Life. But the moment Life throws you a googly, you are stumped! You are left clueless, numb and debilitated. That’s when you realize that surrendering to Life, humbly accepting what is and going with the flow is what intelligent living is all about! This realization is the key to Happiness.” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaLife CoachLife Coaching Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Your mind’s first response to a problem situation is to deny its very existence. But being in denial mode simply means that you don’t see the problem although it exists; which means the problem is hurting you, but you don’t recognize it. When you finally acknowledge the presence of the problem, you hate it. You want it to go away. And when it doesn’t, you are over-anxious to solve it. But some problems defy human intelligence and logical solutions. They stay on, they frustrate you and leave you feeling miserable. The simple, intelligent approach to dealing with problems is to first accept them, rather than deny their existence, and then go to work on solving them. Realize that denying the presence of a problem does not mean the problem does not exist. Every problem has arrived with a specific Purpose – to teach you invaluable Life lessons, to make you stronger, wiser and happy!” HappinessLife LessonsSpiritualityAcceptanceResilienceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“Acceptance does not make a problem go away. Accepting that a problem exists is the first step to dealing with it. When you stop denying its existence and accept that you have a problem, your ability to deal with it increases manifold. You become calm and you start exploring avenues for solving the problem. In denial mode, you are running away from the problem. And what you run away from, will chase you, will haunt you. But when you turn around and face the problem, accepting it, taking it head-on – you discover your inherent resilience and feel a strange ability to withstand any amount of pain! You may be in the throes of a huge crisis, but you are anchored and are at peace. This is why Life gave you the problem in the first place – for you to know who you truly are and what you are capable of!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceCrisisAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe Happynesswala Author:AVIS Viswanathan
“The essence of Life is to be able to live with uncertainty, accepting it for what it is, embracing its inscrutability, without trying to dissect it, analyze it or justify it. Life’s beauty lies in facing it as a series of adventures. The endgame is always clear: your Life will end some day. But what will happen in the meantime, what kind of twists and turns will you encounter, what challenges will you be faced with? It is these myriad, often unpredictable, possibilities that make Life interesting. So, don’t resist Life, don’t run away from it either; turn around, face it and go with its flow…doing this does not make your problems disappear, nor will it make your passage easier, but surely, Life’s complexity gives way to a simple awakening, a realization. It is what it is. And accepting and living with what is, is Happiness!” HappinessLife LessonsAcceptanceAvis ViswanathanFall Like A Rose PetalAvis On HappynessThe HappynesswalaGo With The Flow Author:AVIS Viswanathan