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“When you let go of all that is causing you pain and distress, you let go of your unhappiness too. Sometimes, it may be people who make you unhappy. So move away from such people. At other times, it may be the choices that you have made that make you unhappy. So let go of the past – it is over, you can’t undo it. There may also be situations where you cannot fix the core issue that is causing all your pain and agony. When you can’t fix a problem yourself, let go of your desire to fix it. When you let go, when you uncling from whatever it is that is holding you hostage, you set yourself free. When you let go, you actually let Happiness in!”

“It is only one Life that you have; just this one lifetime! So, please don’t postpone Happiness, don’t postpone living. Of course, you can’t avoid the lows, the crises, the tragedies. But you can learn to be happy despite the circumstances. You do that by accepting whatever comes your way and by letting go of debilitating emotions. Remember: only when you let go of something can you receive another…clinging on never helps…so, to receive grace and abundance…let go, let go, let go…of all that makes you unhappy and…simply flow with Life!”

“Life is intrinsically impermanent. Over time, everything – and everyone – you know will change and, eventually, will be gone. When you understand this truth about Life, you will learn to live in a ‘let go’! This is what intelligent living is all about. It is only through living in a ‘let go’ that you are happy – because only then you are celebrating what is and are not imprisoned by what was or are fearful of what will be.”

“In the context of your adult children, the only question you need to ask yourself is this: Have you have taught them sound values? If you have, be grateful for having been able to do that. If there is an opportunity, and they ask for your help, support their adult journeys to the best of your ability. Beyond that, let go, let go, let go...!”

“Being expectationless simply means going with the flow of Life. Accepting whatever comes your way and making the best of any situation. Flowing with Life is not merely surviving. It is thriving. Flowing is the natural process of Life. You flow, just like a river flows. It is the path of least resistance. It is celebratory. It makes you come alive!”

“Families, parents and society must evolve. As long as someone is not destructive, they have a right to experience Life their way, making choices they want, living on their terms. Their stumbling, falling, learning, discovering, experimenting…is part of their entitlement, it is part of their adventure. Now, should family or friends wish to share perspectives, they may do that but not with an expectation that the point of view will be considered, appreciated, accepted or implemented. So, by-invitation- only parenting is a simple principle to embrace! Of course, honest conversations always help…should everyone be willing to engage meaningfully.”

“Sometimes the best way to deal with a broken family is to leave its members to be at peace within their own broken worlds. When each one is at peace with who they are, with the problems they are dealing with and are not sure of the way forward, then letting things be, just be, is a sane option. At least each one is individually at peace. And that’s no small miracle! People being born into a family does not necessarily ensure that they stay together. It takes trust and transparency to build and nurture families. When these values cease to exist, merely coming together under a roof is a lie. It achieves no purpose!”

“Everything that's happening to you, to me, to us, is part of an inscrutable Master Plan. And that grand design is not flawed! Everything is the way it should be and is going exactly per that Plan! And today is always better than yesterday. At least your ability to deal with what you are faced with has improved with one more day's effort of dealing with it.”

“When all your efforts at trying to get what you want are exhausted, if you choose to walk away calmly, without grief and frustration, then what you want will flow to you, on its own, if it is meant for you. There is great power in letting go and moving on. It is only when you have let go, of desire itself, that you can receive what is truly meant for you! No one – and nothing – can take away what is meant for you and no one – and nothing – can get you what is not meant for you! Understand this truth about Life – and you will live happily ever after.”

“Don’t grieve that your child has a problem. Don’t wish for the problem to go away either. And certainly don’t imagine that ‘bad times’ have befallen your child owing to ‘bad karma’! The truth is that no matter what you do or wish for, your child has to go through what they have to go through. Just as Life happened to you in its own unique way, it will happen to your child too. You can’t change that reality. Nor can you live your child’s Life. So, be practical. Be available for your child surely and invest in prayer. A crisis is Life’s way of coaching your child. So, pray that your child learns to face Life, not fight it or run away from it! Pray that your child evolves spiritually from the experience – often growing stronger, wiser and happy from it.”

“When something – or someone – that you are clinging on to starts controlling you, the joy of doing that something or being with that person evaporates. You feel miserable. To uncling, you must feel and hate that misery deep within you. Ask yourself if you really want so much suffering in your Life – for instance, if you smoke, are you smoking for yourself anymore or is your habit controlling you, driving you crazy; or if you are in an abusive marriage, are you in it because you are loving it or are you being held hostage in it by the person’s power or by social norms? Only brutally honest conversations with yourself on what – or who – is possessing you leads you to uncling. You finally uncling only when you realize that you have to make that choice to let go, to move on, to end the suffering!”