“Anyone who has raised more than one child knows full well that kids turn out the way they turn out - astonishingly, for the most part, and usually quite unlike their siblings, even their twins, raised under the same flawed rooftree. Little we have done or said, or left undone and unsaid, seems to have made much mark. It's hubris to suppose ourselves so influential; a casual remark on the playground is as likely to change their lives as any dedicated campaign of ours. They come with much of their own software already in place, waiting, and none of the keys we press will override it.” KnowsWayWellsChildrenLittlesMadeSaidDoneSeemsKidsTurnsLeftWaitingKeysMarkPressesRaisedCampaignsSoftwareDedicatedTwinsFlawedRemarksCasualSiblingInfluentialUndonePlaygroundsHubrisUnsaid Author:Barbara Holland
“parents needn't bother driving small children around to see the purple mountains' majesties; the children will go right on duking it out in the back seat and whining for food as if you were showing them Cincinnati. No one under twenty really wants to look at scenery.” IfsWantLooksChildrenParentMountainTwentiesDrivingBotherSeatsPurpleMajestyScenerySmall ChildWhining Author:Barbara Holland
“We don't get enough pampering. If we were once the only child of an adoring mother, we developed a taste for it; if not, we developed a thirst for it.” IfsChildrenEnoughMotherComfortTasteThirstOnly ChildPampering Author:Barbara Holland
“If we have a decent sort of cat to begin with, and have always treated it courteously, and aren't cursed with meddling, bullying natures, it's a pleasure to let it do as it pleases. With children, this would be wicked and irresponsible, so raising children involves a lot of effort and friction. They need to be taught how to tie their shoes and multiply fractions, they need to be punished for pocketing candy in the grocery store, they need to be washed and combed and forced to clean up their rooms and say please and thank you. A cat is our relief and our reward.” IfsNeedsChildrenWould BePleasureRoomsEffortTaughtPleaseCatCleanRewardsShoesStoresTreatedTiesDecentWickedReliefBullyingCandyRaising ChildrenGroceriesIrresponsibleCursedFractionsGrocery StoresFrictionMeddlingPlease And Thank You Book:Secrets of the Cat: It's [sic] Lore, Legend, and Lives Source: Secrets of the Cat: It's [sic] Lore, Legend, and Lives
“The thing to remember is that children are temporary. As soon as they develop a sense of humor and get to be good company, maybe even remember to take the trash out and close the refrigerator door, they pack up their electronic equipment and their clothes, and some of your clothes, and leave in a U-Haul, to return only at Thanksgiving.” ChildrenRememberCompanyDoorsReturnClothesBe GoodTemporarySense Of HumorPacksEquipmentTrashRefrigeratorsHaulGood CompanyU Haul Book:One's Company: Reflections on Living Alone Source: One's Company: Reflections on Living Alone
“The thousands of possible lives that used to spread out in front of me have snapped shut into one, and all I get is what I've got. It's time to pass on the possibilities, all those deliciously half-open doors, to my children, and drive them to the airports, and wish them bon voyage.” LifeChildrenUsedWishHalfDoorsFrontsPossibilitySpreadMy ChildrenAirportsVoyages Author:Barbara Holland
