“Victims are often, automatically, accused of lying. But when a perpetrator is exposed for lying, the stigma doesn't stick. Why is that we're wary of vctims making false accusations, but rarely consider how many men have blatanly lied about, downplayed, or manipulated others to cover their own actions?” LiesVictimsDouble Standards Book:Know My Name Source: Know My Name
“Victims are often, automatically, accused of lying. But when a perpetrator is exposed for lying, the stigma doesn't stick. Why is that we're wary of victims making false accusations, but rarely consider how many men have blatantly lied about, downplayed, or manipulated others to cover their own actions?” LiesVictimsDouble Standards Book:Know My Name Source: Know My Name
“How do you come after me, when it is all of us? One of the greatest dangers of victimhood is the singling out; all of your attributes and anecdotes assigned blame. In court they’ll try to make you believe you are unlike the others, you are different, an exception. You are dirtier, more stupid, more promiscuous. But it’s a trick. The assault is never personal, the blaming is.” SolidarityAssaultVictimsThe Lie Of Blame Book:Know My Name Source: Know My Name
“Since no photos of me were published, I was curious about what photos would accompany the articles; a silhouette of a girl looking out a window, a teardrop on a cheek, duct tape over her mouth. All of this was accurate, in terms of the solitude, the silencing. But the incredible thing is that a victim is also the smiling girl in a green apron making your coffee, she just handed you your change. She just taught a class of first-graders. She has her headphones in, tapping her foot on the subway. Victims are all around you.” VictimVictimsRape SurvivorRape Survivors Book:Know My Name Source: Know My Name