“When used in place of 'but', the word 'and' allows two seemingly competing ideas to be held side by side. Where the word 'but' minimizes everything that came before, the word 'and' expands us beyond dualistic thinking. When we trade 'but' for 'and', we create the space for ideas to unfold and be explored. If this substitution becomes a habit, we can change the way we think.” Words Of WisdomFeelingRelationship AdviceCouples Therapy Author:Cheli Lange, PLC