“Fear (...) that has no relation to capabilities or even to reality is epidemic among women today. Fear of being independent (that could mean we'd end up alone and uncared for); fear of being dependent (that could mean we'd be swallowed by some dominating "other"); fear of being competent and good at what we do (that could mean we'd have to keep on being good at what we do); fear of being incompetent (that could mean we'd have to keep on feeling shlumpy, depressed, and second class). (...) Phobia has so thoroughly infiltrated the feminine experience it is like a secret plague. It has been built up over long years by social conditioning and is all the more insidious for being so thoroughly acculturated we do not even recognize what has happened to us. Women will not become free until they stop being afraid. We will not begin to experience real change in our lives, real emancipation, until we begin the process - almost a de-brainwashing - of working through the anxieties that prevent us from feeling competent and whole.” FearWomenFeminismOppressionInsecurityPatriarchyGender RolesBrainwashingMale PrivilegeSocietal ConstructsPsychological TraumaCinderella ComplexEmotional Dependence Book:The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence Source: The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence
“(...) psychiatrists today recognize the contortionist's act that was required of women in an age when they were expected to stifle their own healthiest impulses. (...) "To be able to renounce your own achievements without feeling that you were sacrificing requires constant effort. To be lovely and unaggressive, a woman spends a lifetime keeping hostile or resentful impulses down. Even healthy self-assertion is often sacrificed since it may be mistaken by hostility. Therefore, [women] often repress their initiative, give up their aspirations, and unfortunately end up excessively dependent with a deep sense of insecurity and uncertainty about their abilities and their worth.” WomenFeminismOppressionInsecurityPatriarchyGender RolesDouble StandardsMale PrivilegePsychological TraumaCinderella ComplexEmotional Dependency Book:The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence Source: The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of Independence