“It is important to make a distinction between the concepts of self esteem and self-respect The word ‘esteem’ derives from a word meaning to estimate, self esteem is the intuitive estimate we make of our worth based on an assessment of our innate talents, abilities and the success we’ve had at getting what we want in life Individuals who know what they have going for themselves and are confident about their ability to get what they want can overly esteem themselves while never developing any legitimate self-respect. The word ‘respect’ literally means to look back. Self-respect arises, therefore out of a favorable retrospective assessment of ones personal effort, commitment to socially desirable goals and, if luck would it, achievement. To put it more simply, our sense of self esteem derives from what we know we have, while self-respect derives from what we’ve done with what we’ve been given.” Self Esteem Book:In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People Source: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People
“Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation.” PeopleLoveMindHateEvilGamesRelationshipsFreedomLibertyLearningPsychologyEmotionalEmpathyHatredAbuseAffectionManipulationNarcissismSelf KnowledgeMind ControlPsychopathVoluntaryismVictimsAbusersGaslightingAbusive RelationshipsEmpathsEmpathicPleaser Book:In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People Source: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People