“The experience of pleasant pain is familiar to many, perhaps most, people. (Not you? Think again: ever enjoyed the pleasant muscle ache of a good day's exercise, or the challenging burn of a spicy curry?) Many more, although they may not be consciously aware of it, also have some experience with erotically arousing pain: biting, scratching, pinching, mild hair-pulling and hickeys have an honored place in many folks' sexual repertoire. If seeking out and/or eroticizing pain is sick, then it's a sickness about as rare as the common cold.” PainSexPsychologyBdsmKinkyKinkSexual PsychologySex Psychology Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers
“It's time to stop being ashamed. Untold tens of thousands of people share the desire to redden each other's backsides in a loving and consensual manner, and have enhanced their lives and their sexuality by doing so. Why on earth should anybody be ashamed of having more ways to get aroused than their neighbor has? Seems to me that such a person should feel lucky, not guilty.” SexKinkySpankingKinkSex PositiveSpanking FetishSpanking Kink Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers
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“Every erotic sufferer, or inflicter of suffering, occasionally feels the pang of desire for "reality," the quest to turn the delicate interplay of symbols into something more poignant and immediate. It is at this time that partners begin talk of disposing of safewords, of consensual nonconsent, of "no way out" scenes.” SexBdsmKinkyKinkSexual PsychologySex Psychology Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers
“Other control-oriented spankees are submissives. For these folks, spanking is something they accept because they know that giving a spanking pleases their dominant, or because their dominant has decided that they require one in order to shape their behavior. They are rarely resistant or mouthy; instead, they get their script from gamely doing their best to please.” BdsmSubmissiveSpankingKinkSpanking FetishSpanking KinkSpankeeSpanko Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers