“The experience of pleasant pain is familiar to many, perhaps most, people. (Not you? Think again: ever enjoyed the pleasant muscle ache of a good day's exercise, or the challenging burn of a spicy curry?) Many more, although they may not be consciously aware of it, also have some experience with erotically arousing pain: biting, scratching, pinching, mild hair-pulling and hickeys have an honored place in many folks' sexual repertoire. If seeking out and/or eroticizing pain is sick, then it's a sickness about as rare as the common cold.” PainSexPsychologyBdsmKinkyKinkSexual PsychologySex Psychology Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers
“Like many women, I found it easy to deny to myself that the fascinating thoughts and images that crowded my mind were sexual in nature. (Women, unlike men, cannot look down to gauge a phallic barometer of sexual arousal.)” SexSexualityFemale SexualitySexual PsychologyFemale Sexuality QuotesSex Psychology Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers
“Every erotic sufferer, or inflicter of suffering, occasionally feels the pang of desire for "reality," the quest to turn the delicate interplay of symbols into something more poignant and immediate. It is at this time that partners begin talk of disposing of safewords, of consensual nonconsent, of "no way out" scenes.” SexBdsmKinkyKinkSexual PsychologySex Psychology Book:Spanking for Lovers Source: Spanking for Lovers