“Desire, I was only beginning to understand that day at the ruins, comes in many forms, and some of them are violent. We learn this in the stories we are told about love. Struck by an angel's arrow or drugged by a love flower, desire wounds, and I had felt its blue sting. The thought of him all day, like pushing on a bruise.” LoveRomanceDesireRelationshipsLust Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“Much better were the quiet afternoons in the dim light ... my legs hanging from the end of the bed while he kneeled before my body as if in supplication. I was a greedy lover, he teased, and I was, I was, this desire, this pleasure, unknown and new. Light streamed into my bedroom early in the autumn through the thin lace curtains. The morning after Jude spent the night at my house for the first time, I turned to look at him beside me. He looked old. Not older, old.” LoveDesireSexAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“What matters now is this, he said. He pulled me close, kissed the top of my head. Here, with you. I was so eager to be loved by him, to be held in his arms and reassured, to shut out the ghosts of other girlfriends from the room like a cold draft, I said nothing more. Climbing on top of him, my hand on his chest, an animal warmth. I bent to kiss him and let the damp ropes of my hair drag across his face, his chest. He reached up and moved his hands through it, as if it were light or water. I can see it all over your face, he said. Such naked wanting. I told him that I'd always been afraid of wanting anything so badly that it becomes visible.” LoveDesireRelationshipsAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“It never really goes away, the longing for the life not lived, because isn't that part of how we come to know ourselves too? Through what we lack as much as what we have, all we dream but do not hold. Some desires have no resolution.” DesireLossAcceptance Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I know how it is, he said, his tone shifting. Voice warm and low. Intimate again. You like it this way. Sneaking around. And it seemed to me he was offering a way out, and so I shrugged, nodded. Say nothing more, he said, reaching for me. Saved from having to explain, I kissed him to stop talk, to stop thought.” LoveRomancePassionRelationshipsLustAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“But as we learn to trust, we take more risks. He touched me with what I can only think to describe as authority--so different from my sexual experiences so far, those incoherent collegiate rumblings. Jude turned to me, rolling onto his side. He brushed the sand from my cheek and said, Sleep with me tonight. I thought I just did. I don't mean fucking, he said, and I marveled at the word in his mouth--not a curse or a blunt force but somehow spoken with lightness, worn in with the warmth of many years. I mean come home with me. Spend the night. I want to be able to reach for you.” LoveRomancePassionRelationshipsAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I had longed for this. To fall asleep in his warmth, to feel that our time together for once was unlimited.” LovePassionRelationshipsAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“Who is to say what love is or what it wants to be, the shape it takes, or how quickly it comes on? Love has always made a fool of time.” LovePassionRelationshipsAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“In his absence, I imagined the house had revealed something about Jude's true nature--private, and unyielding in all the places I'd thought he was inviting me in. You're quiet tonight, my mother said. With the wine in my blood, I could have told her about it t hen. Bold enough and wanting, suddenly, a witness. But what words would I use to describe to my mother what we did together? Did not have the language for it. Could not look her in the eye and call it love.” LovePassionRelationshipsAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I looked around the cabin--its white walls, the linen curtains that puffed in the breeze like sails, paintings of boats and nautical knots. This place, I knew, would not remember me. Already, most traces of my presence had been swept away and scrubbed clean. But what about Jude? I wanted to stain him, like pollen Wanted to press into his skin, Remember me here.” LovePassionRelationshipsAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“Even when we were not touching we were one, joined by an invisible thread, like Jude had said about the moon and tide.” LoveDestinyFate Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“We didn't choose King, I told my mother. He chose us. Or we chose each other. Or maybe it wasn't even a choice at all. Like love.” LoveDestinyFate Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I could never be bored, I thought, if he was nearby. It was the stage of love, where even the most mundane activity seemed like an adventure.” LoveRelationshipsInfatuationAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“You're just different from the other boys I've brought home. Different in what way? Well, you're not exactly a boy. I'm old, you mean? No, not old. But you're, you know, a man. I hate that there've been others, said Jude, and I was so surprised at the fact of his jealousy that I apologized. Why would he be jealous, I thought, when I had never loved or been loved this way before? It wasn't like this, I said. It wasn't ever like this. Tell me that you've never had anyone else. I want you to pretend. Okay, I said, laughing. I've never been with anyone else. Happy? Tell me I'm your first, he said, his voice low and his hands moving across my blouse. Tell me that you've never been touched. I'm untouched. Chaste, a clean slate. But you want it.” LoveSexRelationshipsIntimacyJealousyAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“What continues to surprise me, and what I still don't understand, is not the reason that love ends but the way that it endures.” LoveLossGrief Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“In this way my love for him mirrored my mother's love for my father, which, despite their separation, had endured--call it habit, call it time, call it memory, the memory of love. It's not so easy, after wall, to cut that invisible thread.” LoveLossGriefBreakup Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“We are taught that love is not so different from hatred, that instead of opposites, the two extremes of the human heart might in fact be twins. But it's grief, really, that is love's twin, that knows no bounds of time or space. Wave after wave it keeps coming, whereas hatred cools, fades. So many times I swore that I loved Jude, that no one had ever loved or been loved this way before, and then something broke through, a new depth. Colder and darker moved the waters of my love. Thinking, in those first few days after, of something [my mother] once sad: There is no end to grief, because there is no end to love.” LoveLossGrief Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“Do you still love Jude? I think a part of me always will. It always feels that way at first, she said. But it will stop. I promise. And I didn't know then if that was better, if I even wanted it to. At the time, that seemed to be like the saddest thing.” LossGriefBreakup Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“What I remember is that one morning, she was gone. I'm not sure for how long, for time in the absence of someone you love cannot be measured in the same way as regular time.” LossGrief Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I am trying to leave a man I still love, or I am trying to stop loving a man I have left. In one of these I had succeeded, but as I lay awake, it was hard to tell in which.” LoveLossGriefBreakup Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“As if it were possible to circumnavigate memory.” LoveRelationshipsLossBreakup Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I can see that what I am doing here, sitting at my grandmother's writing desk in my mother's spare room, is trying to create my own portrait of the man I'd known thirteen years ago.” LoveRelationshipsLossMelancholy Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“But that night, listening to the swell music, Patsy Cline's voice strained with sorrow, I thought. She's got these little things, I've got you. Wrapping my arts around Jude's waist. In that moment, I felt so lucky I thought I might die. The only way I can understand this now is that what I was feeling, standing in his kitchen all those years ago, was a presentiment of loss.” LoveRelationshipsLossBreakupAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“Age, I realized, could not account for the depth of one's experience. I was sure she had never experienced that kind of loss, for she would not have spoken of it so lightly if she had.” AgeLossExperience Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“And while intellectually I knew that both things could be true--that the love and regret did not necessarily cancel each other out--it was difficult for me to contemplate because a function of that love meant wanting me to make different choices, and might this also imply that she considered them mistakes?” LoveRegret Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I hated the way they spoke like that. As if there could be no measurement of their past in years. As if I, so young, couldn't possibly understand the way time worked, and what it did to people.” AgeMaturityAge Difference Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“I didn't know how to love like that, in bold gestures. My expressions were small: a folded love note buried in a jacket pocket, a drafted email addressed and sent to no one. Could a quiet love like mine be just as true?” LoveRelationshipsExpression Of True Feelings Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“This is what happens when you break with one life to live another–it causes a doubling. Knowing eleven at night here is seven in the morning there. Some part of you is always in conversation with that other self.” TimeDoublingPg 6 Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt
“The trouble is that our dreams, like our memories, are not immune to revision.” MemoriesDreams Book:Thirst for Salt Source: Thirst for Salt