“I want you to be happy. I want you to be satisfied. I want you to be fulfilled. I want you to be able to live life on your own terms. I worry that no matter how much he loves you and you love him, marriage might bring you more sorrow than joy. No woman gets married thinking, Golly, I hope he turns me into his personal servant. And yet it happens. All the time. To lots of us. To me. Please refuse to allow him to do this to you. I want you to be happy, and whatever makes you happy will make me happy. I just want him to love you more than you love him. I want him to treat you with respect, and I don't want the burden of keeping the marriage healthy to fall on you. He has to carry his half! I want him to carry your burdens. I want him to consider your hopes and dreams and needs in all his decisions. I want him to show you acts of kindness, large and small. I want you to find joy with him at your side.” RelationshipsMarriage Book:The Undermining of Twyla and Frank Source: The Undermining of Twyla and Frank