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“Grief is visceral, not reasonable: the howling at the center of grief is raw and real. It is love in its most wild form.”

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Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“When someone you love dies, you don't just lose them in the present or in the past. You lose the future you should have had, and might have had, with them. They are missing from all the life that was to be.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“If you can't tell your story to another human, find another way: journal, paint, make your grief into a graphic novel with a very dark storyline. Or go out to the woods and tell the trees. It is an immense relief to be able to tell your story without someone trying to fix it. The trees will not ask, "How are you really?" and the wind doesn't care if you cry.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“Things like "Everything happens for a reason" and "You'll become a stronger/kinder/more compassionate person because of this" brings out rage in grieving people. Nothing makes a person angrier than when they know they're being insulted but can't figure out how. It's not just erasing your current pain that makes words of comfort land so badly. There's a hidden subtext in those statements about becoming a better, kinder, and more compassionate because of your loss, that often-used phrase about knowing what's "truly important in life" now that you've learned how quickly life can change. The unspoken second half of the sentence in this case says you needed this somehow. It says that you weren't aware of what was important in life before this happened. It says that you weren't kind, compassionate, or aware enough in your life before this happened. That you needed this experience in order to develop or grow, that you needed this lesson in order to step into your "true path" in life. As though loss and hardship were the only ways to grow as a human being. As though pain were the only doorway to a better, deeper life, the only way to be truly compassionate and kind.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“What we need to remember -- as a working practice -- is to honor all griefs. Honor all losses, small and not small. Life changing and moment changing. And then, not to compare them. That all people experience pain is not medicine for anything.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“Grief is not an enlightenment program for a select few. No one needs intense, life-changing, loss to become whoever they are "meant" to be. The universe is not causal in that way: you need to become something, so life gives you this horrible experience in order to make it happen.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“All those encouragements from others about having so much to live for, that there's still goodness to come in your life --- they feel irrelevant. They kind of are irrelevant. You can't cheerlead yourself out of the depths of grief.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“By simply stating the truth, we open conversations about grief, which are really conversations about love. We start to love one another better. We begin to overhaul the falsely redemptive storyline that has us, as a culture and as individuals, insist that there's a happy ending everywhere if only we look hard enough. We stop blaming each other for our pain, and instead, work together to change what can be changed, and withstand what can't be fixed. We get more comfortable with hearing the truth, even when the truth breaks our hearts.”

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Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

“We've got this idea that there are only two options in grief: you're either going to be stuck in your pain, doomed to spend the rest of your life rocking in a corner in your basement wearing sackcloth, or you're going to triumph over grief, be transformed, and come back even better than you were before. Just two options. On, off. Eternally broken or completely healed. It doesn't seem to matter that nothing else in life is like that. Somehow when it comes to grief, the entire breadth of human experience goes out the window.”

Death Loss Grief Sadness Suicide Trauma Witness Child Loss

Book:It's OK That You're Not OK

Source: It's OK That You're Not OK

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