“One of the difficulties with grief research is that it risks making certain kinds of grief seem normal and others abnormal - and of course having a sense of the contours of grief is, I think, truly useful, one has to remember it's not a science, it's an individual reckoning, which science is just trying to help us describe.” ThinkingTryingKindHelpingSeemsRememberCertainCoursesIndividualGriefRiskNormalResearchDifficultyAbnormalReckoning Author:Meghan O'Rourke
“For sure, the funeral industry seems intensely cynical to me and I don't think it is HELPING people mourn.” PeopleThinkingHelpingSeemsIndustryFuneralCynicalHelping PeopleMourn Author:Meghan O'Rourke
“I envy my Jewish friends the ritual of saying kaddish - a ritual that seems perfectly conceived, with its built-in support group and its ceremonious designation of time each day devoted to remembering the lost person.” PersonsSeemsRememberLostSupportGroupsBuiltEnvyEach DayRitualDevotedDesignationSupport GroupsJewish FriendsLost Person Author:Meghan O'Rourke
“Much of Hamlet is about the precise kind of slippage the mourner experiences: the difference between being and seeming, the uncertainty about how the inner translates into the outer, the sense that one is expected to perform grief palatably. (If you don’t seem sad, people worry; but if you are grief-stricken, people flinch away from your pain.)” PeopleIfsKindSeemsPainDifferencesGriefWorryExpectedUncertaintyTranslatePreciseSeeming Book:The Long Goodbye: A Memoir Source: The Long Goodbye: A Memoir
