“It comes down to this: if men believed that sex was a mutual activity between two human beings based on equal respect and power, the sex trade would not exist.” SexEqualitySexualityConsentProstitutionSex WorkSex Trade Book:Any Girl: A Memoir of Sexual Exploitation and Recovery Source: Any Girl: A Memoir of Sexual Exploitation and Recovery
“Agreeing to something does not make that thing any less harmful for our bodies or minds. It is psychologically exhausting, damaging and toxic to fake a connection to someone, especially a sexual connection. Not being free to be yourself in such a vulnerable and intimate situation is physically and psychologically exhausting. Being paid to have sex on someone else’s terms is the farthest thing from sexual autonomy that exists.” AbuseConsentProstitutionSex WorkSexual Autonomy Book:Any Girl: A Memoir of Sexual Exploitation and Recovery Source: Any Girl: A Memoir of Sexual Exploitation and Recovery
“If the men who paid me weren’t rapists, if this was all consensual sex, why am I traumatised by it? Why do I experience flashbacks with the same tone and texture as flashbacks I have had from being raped? I have had a lot of sex I regret having which I am not traumatised by. There is sometimes sadness, but not trauma. I experience trauma and flashbacks only in relation to sexual exploitation. Sex that didn’t involve money, in which I’ve felt dissociated, or didn’t feel like it, or when I didn’t stop something I wasn’t comfortable with has not traumatised me in the way sex-trade sex has – sex to which I ‘consented’.” ConsentSexual AbuseRapeProstitutionSex WorkFlashbacksSex TradeSexual ExploitationSexual Trauma Book:Any Girl: A Memoir of Sexual Exploitation and Recovery Source: Any Girl: A Memoir of Sexual Exploitation and Recovery