“We treat others badly not because we don't understand how people should be treated but because we don't really consider them people.” LoveKindnessEthicsCharityHumanismCivilityGolden Rule Book:We Must Not Be Enemies: Restoring America's Civic Tradition Source: We Must Not Be Enemies: Restoring America's Civic Tradition
“Civic charity is easy to talk about but tremendously difficult to practice - mainly because a lot of people don't reciprocate. Some people will be rude and obnoxious and will laugh at us when we try to engage with them charitably. They will see our generosity as a sign of weakness and take advantage of our good nature to abuse us further. We will forgive them the requisite seventy times seven times, and they will keep on offending us. Charity always works this way, both the civic kind and the 'love-other-people-like-God-loves-you' kind. We need not think, however, that we are shirking our duties or abandoning our causes when we decline to angrily denounce those on the other side or to treat them like subhuman imbeciles. Charitable engagement does not always change people's hearts and minds, but the number of times it has done so is not zero - which gives charity a better track record than anger, contempt, and derision. Ultimately, though, mature and thoughtful people do not allow the way other people treat them to determine how they treat other people; when we do this, we surrender an enormous amount of power to people who do not wish us well.” LoveKindnessCharityCivilityReciprocityCivic Virtues Book:We Must Not Be Enemies: Restoring America's Civic Tradition Source: We Must Not Be Enemies: Restoring America's Civic Tradition