“Then it was only right that she do as her spirit told her, and let the struggle itself answer the question of which was the stronger: her will or her womanly nature.” SpiritPassionNatureDestinyWomanWillDrive Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“Thomas watched wealth, it struck Ester, the way some men watched a sunset.” Wealth Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“The story that had once singed and flared in her had long since receded, as her habit of silence turned, over the decades, into law. Did she mean to take it to the grave with her, then? Plainly, that was what she was going to do. She was going to take it to the grave. And it would end there. Dust.” LoveDeathSecretSilenceStorytellingStory Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“Yet sacrifice of the self is everywhere viewed as the highest calling, and the more so for a woman, who must give every element of her life to others. Kindness is at all times counseled to women, who are called unnatural if not kind. Yet how can a kindness that blights the life of even one--though it benefit others--be called good? Is it in face kindness to sever oneself from one's own desires? Mustn't the imperative to protect all life encompass--even for a woman--her own? Then we must abandon our accustomed notion of a woman's kindness, and forge a new own.” NatureKindnessSocietyWomanRulesSelf SacrificeGender RolesSocial Rules Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“Some candle inside him was dangerously close to guttering. A definition of loneliness surfaced in his mind: when you suddenly understand that the story of your life isn't what you thought it was.” LifeHomeSufferingLonelinessStoryPartner Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“Men, perhaps, might nourish both heart and mind, but for a woman there could be no such luxury... How readily the rules of female behavior--gentleness, acquiescence, ever-mindfulness--turn to shackles. So, she thought, there must be declared a new kind of virtue: one that made the throwing off of such rules, and even such deceit as this required, praiseworthy.” MindHeartVirtueSocietyBehaviorExpectationsRulesGender Roles Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“The Grocery Checkout Proviso: The more things you care about, the more vulnerable you are. If you are part of that epicurean minority in this country that is still offended by violations of the English language, you will be slapped in the face every time you stand in line at the market. FIFTEEN ITEMS OR LESS. Caring passionately about grammar—caring passionately about anything most of humanity doesn’t care about—is like poking a giant hole in your life and letting the wind blow everything around.” CaringGrammar Book:Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story Source: Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story
“She'd spent the decades barricading herself from life, setting the conditions for love so high no one else could ever meet them. Few, in fact, had made any effort. It was a simple thing, in the end, to hide in plain sight. The world did not prevent you from becoming what you were determined to become.” LoveLonelinessIsolationDefense Mechanism Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“A woman such as I is a rocky cliff against which a man tests himself before retreating to safe pastures. I cannot fault any such man as takes what ease the world offers him.” MenWomenNatureGender Roles Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“You’re a student?” John flushed as though the question were both compliment and accusation. “I was. Or am.” He shook his head. “That is, I will be again, if I’m to have my say in the matter.” LearningStudent Book:The Weight of Ink Source: The Weight of Ink
“Feminism means having a choice. And feminism doesn't care which choices you make, either. Just that you have them. The point has never been to establish some principled refusal to give yourself to another human being. The point is to make sure you can give yourself--or not give yourself--of your free will.” GivingHumansMeanCareChoicesHuman BeingsFeminismFree WillRefusalChoices You MakePrincipled Book:Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story Source: Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story
“People misunderstand happiness. They think it's the absence of trouble. That's not happiness, that's luck. Happiness is the ability to live well alongside trouble. No two people have the same trouble, or the same way of metabolizing it. Q.E.D. - No two happy people are happy in the same way. . . . Every day brilliant people, people smarter than I, wallow in safe tragedy and pessimism, shying from what really takes guts - recognizing how much courage and labor happiness demands.” PeopleThinkingWayWellsTwoAbilityTroubleSafeDemandLaborTragedyLuckBrilliantAbsenceGutsPessimismSmarterRecognizingLive WellHappy People Book:Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story Source: Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story
“Books. People have no idea how beautiful books are. How they taste on your fingers. How bright everything is when you light it with words.” PeopleWritingBookIdeasLightBeautifulTasteFingersNo IdeaBeautiful Books Book:Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story Source: Tolstoy Lied: A Love Story