“Find people who can handle your darkest truths, who don’t change the subject when you share your pain, or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. Find people who understand we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there’s no weakness in admitting it. In fact, few things take as much strength. Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you to be real, too. Find people who get that life is hard, and who get that life is also beautiful, and who aren’t afraid to honor both those realities. Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind and body, and who take joy in your joy. Find people who love you, for real, and who accept you, for real. Just as you are. They’re out there, these people. Your tribe is waiting for you. Don’t stop searching until you find them. 9/30/16 Then her heart opened wider than it ever had before, and all she saw before her, everywhere she looked, were people to love.” PeopleLoveLifeRealTruthHappinessBeautyFamilyFriends Author:Scott Stabile
“Happiness is not a choice, or we’d all be happy. Let’s stop putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be happy all the time, and to pretend we can choose to be happy whenever we want. That’s not how life works. Sure, we can make choices that reflect a commitment to our well-being, and the more of these choices we make, the more likely we are to find ourselves feeling good more often. Healthy choices are within our power, and are important. But we can’t choose happiness, and we just set ourselves up for failure by believing we can. Life is more than happiness, anyway. It’s okay to feel all the things we feel. It’s human. There’s no shame in wanting to be happy, of course. We all want to be happy. But rather than try to choose happiness, maybe we can choose to being kinder and more loving. That we can do. We can work hard to take better care of ourselves, and better care of each other. If we do these things, and we remember that we are all connected, all brothers and sisters, all worthy of love, maybe then happiness will choose us a little more often.” LoveLifeTruthHappinessInspirational QuotesBeliefFamilyPowerFailureFriendsHumanShameHappyWell BeingChoiceLoving Author:Scott Stabile
“I used to listen to all the voices in my head that told me I wasn’t good enough, or that I would fail if I tried, or that everyone would judge me harshly for my truth. I used to let one fear or the other dictate how I chose to live my life. Not surprisingly, my life didn’t change much. I spent a lot of time with regret, and thinking about what could have been. I found myself wishing I’d at least tried to do some of the things I’d been so afraid to do. So I began to. I made the choice to hear all the fearful critics in my head without actually listening to them. I gave them a voice, but no longer a say. I had given all the power to my fear, after all, so it was within me to take it away. And my entire life changed, as every life does once we insist that our fears take a backseat to our courage and desire. Fear may not be a choice, but the commitment to take brave action, despite our fears, is always there for the choosing. I spent enough time obeying my fears. Too much time. Now I listen to different voices, the ones reminding me that no matter what happens, no matter what people think, the great potential of my life, and joy, lives within my commitment to live my life beyond my fear.” LoveInspirationTruthDesireWishFearVoiceChangeCourageCriticsChoiceListen Author:Scott Stabile
“When our desire for truth outweighs our fear of change, we make choices that serve an open heart rather than a closed mind.” InspirationTruthDesireChoicesFearChange Author:Scott Stabile
“My love and anger are in deep conversation these days, teaching and learning from one another. I'm doing my best to stay open to all of it. I’m curious to see what love does with all my anger.” LoveTruthTeachConversationAnger Author:Scott Stabile
“We all get in a funk sometimes. It doesn't mean you're failing, or ungrateful, or stupid, or lost. It means you're human. The Funk happens. For all of us. We can’t be happy all the time. We don’t need to be.” LoveLifeTruthHopeDespairFunk Author:Scott Stabile
“In my experience, it is always worth it to find the love that lives inside you. No matter how deep you have to dig sometimes.” LoveLifeWisdomInspirationTruthExperience Author:Scott Stabile
“We can't act cruelly toward others without also being negatively affected by our actions. We really are all connected, deeper than we know. If we can't be kinder to each other simply because it's the compassionate and loving way to be, the less remember that when we hurt others, we hurt ourselves, too. Every single time. Just one more reason to treat each other well.” LoveInspirationTruthCompassionKindness Author:Scott Stabile
“She felt likee doing her part to change the world, so she started by giving thanks for all the blessings of her life, rather than bemoaning all that was missing from it. Then she complimented her reflection in the mirror, instead of criticizing it as she usually did. Next she walked into her neighborhood and offered her smile to everyone she passed, whether or not they offered theirs to her. Each day she did these things, and soon they became habit. Each day she lived with more gratitude, more acceptance, more kindnesss. And sure enough, the world around her began to change. Because she had decided so, she was single-handedly doing her part to change it” LoveInspirationTruthMotivationChangeCompassionKindness Author:Scott Stabile
“It’s easy to rebuke each other’s opinions, but can we honor each other’s pain? Can we make the effort to see beyond the portraits we’ve painted of one another, and to connect to the humanity that thrives beneath our own assumptions? Can we be relentless in our desire to tear down walls, and to build bridges? Can we be brave and stay committed to the conversations that need to be had? The only thing I know about these questions is that I need to replace the we with I, and begin to answer them from there. One thing I know for sure: I want to become the example I wish to see in others. That's a good place to start. Another thing I know for sure: I love you. You're beautiful. You rock.” LoveLifeInspirationTruthHappinessFriendshipDifferencesCompassionKindness Author:Scott Stabile
“I looked at my life and for the first time felt like I could hold it all. That I didn’t need to let go of anything in order to be whole. That even those things I’d been clinging to had a place in my freedom. That every single thing played its role.” LoveLifeTruthHappinessFreedomCompassionFree Author:Scott Stabile
“And then it hit me— I don’t have to participate in these toxic conversations. But if I choose to, I can set a different example. I can bring love to the moment, regardless of the response. I can choose to be kind, no matter what. My power lives in my love.” LoveTruthCompassionKindnessConversation Author:Scott Stabile
“We are here to love. Everything else is distraction.” LoveInspirationTruthCompassionDistraction Author:Scott Stabile
“We can't really know what relationships will last or not last in our lives, romantic and otherwise. What we can do is give the best we've got to the relationships we've chosen for ourselves. We can show up with an open heart and mind, be grateful for the exchange of love, and trust in however these relationships evolve. We can also be grateful for the relationships that have ended, trusting that we received from them something important that has helped to move us farther along our paths.” LoveInspirationTruthHappinessRelationshipsCompassion Author:Scott Stabile
“Cheers to all the Rebels out there who care way too much about Art and Truth and Magic to fall in line with the mundane task of fitting in.” ArtTruthMagicStanding OutFitting InRebels Author:Scott Stabile
“I've wasted a lot of time in my life waiting for good things to happen, rather than acting to make them happen. What I've learned? Waiting suffocates power. Acting ignites it. Waiting feeds anxiety. Acting relaxes it. Waiting fuels boredom. Acting repels it. Waiting galvanizes fear. Acting subdues it. Your life will not change any sooner while you wait around for something new. But it just may transform at warp speed once you take action to change it. I'm tired of wasting time, of waiting time. How about you? Act, don't wait.” LoveLifeInspirationTruthFearWaitingAnxiety Author:Scott Stabile
“There's often a deeper truth to be found beneath the excuses we make for ourselves and our lives. Once I stopped looking for tired excuses, I started to find some honest answers.” LifeTruthAnswersExcuses Author:Scott Stabile
“A great gift we can give to ourselves is a willingness to love everyone, no matter what. This frees us completely from the toxic justifications we use to hate.” LoveInspirationTruthHateRelationshipsGift Author:Scott Stabile