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“Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness.”

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Esther Perel is a renowned author and therapist known for her profound insights into couple relationships and sexual psychology. Her work delves into the complexities of modern marriage, love, and sex, offering readers a unique perspective. more

“If a woman isn't feeling sexual with herself, she won't respond to advances from any partner, male or female. When this woman goes dancing, she's finding a connection with her own erotic self. It might be about being on a dance floor, feeling free, not having to feel at all responsible for anybody else's well-being. For other people, it might be about going on a hike for four days by herself and reconnecting with nature and strength and endurance and beauty.”

People Feelings Female Responsible Dancing Endurance Dance Floor

Author:Esther Perel

“As a teenager growing up in Europe, I embraced the romantic ideal. For me, I had to give up the ideal that one person would be there for everything. Once you give up that ideal, then you begin to accept the person that you are with - the person who won't be able to give you everything and who won't be able to know exactly what you want and feel without you even needing to say it.”

Giving Accepting Growing Up Giving Up Teenager

Author:Esther Perel

“I am an advocate of honesty and openness, and I think deceit is a dangerous seed to plant and let grow in relationships.”

Thinking Dangerous Honesty Plant Deceit Openness

Author:Cheryl Strayed

“Not everyone wants to know everything their partner did. Maybe it's enough to say, "Things aren't going well in our marriage. I've made mistakes. I don't think you've been a good partner to me. How do we go forward together?" I think there's a different answer for every couple. But I think intimacy is asking that question.”

Thinking Different Enough Together Mistake Couple Intimacy Made A Mistake

Author:Cheryl Strayed

“People in long-term, monogamous relationships are crushed by the expectation that a partner is going to provide everything they are looking for and wondering why they are dissatisfied when they have four of the ten boxes checked.”

People Wonder Expectations Crushed Dissatisfied

Author:Steve Almond

“If I have a daughter and she plays tennis, and I have a son who plays tennis, I wouldn't say that my son deserves more money because he's a man. I would say they deserve the same amount of money.”

Men Son Daughter Deserve Tennis My Son

Author:Serena Williams

“I once heard an exec say, "If you don't ask for it, we can't give it to you." We can't go through our lives just being grateful for everything.”

Giving Grateful Be Grateful

Author:Ellie Kemper

“Perhaps women are lied to more often because managers think they're not going to push back. If you're told, "We don't have the budget right now" and have no access to the budget to prove otherwise, there's not much you can do, but there's no reason why you can't ask if you can reassess in six months. Then, spend those six months chronicling every good thing you do so you return with a stack of data that proves you need that raise.”

Thinking Reason Prove Good Things Very Good Lied

Author:Jessica Bennett

“When women negotiate they are often viewed as pushy, but if you think about the way women are viewed at large: we are nurturing, helpful, motherly. Those are all stereotypes, of course, but if you play into them you don't face the same penalties. I struggle with this because I hate the fact that because I am a woman, I am supposed to smile when I go into a negotiation. But it's been shown to work. I shouldn't have to smile, but if doing so means that I am going to get the money and rise in power, then I see it as a necessary evil. Once we're in power, we can have resting b*tch face all day.”

Thinking Mean Hate Evil Struggle I Hate Helpful Stereotype Negotiation Nurturing Motherly

Author:Jessica Bennett

“Relate your ask to the group at large by using "we" instead of "I." So I might say, "We grew our traffic by X percent this quarter and it was awesome; I brought in X percent of that." It also helps when women make it about collaboration: This is not a battle - you want to work together with the other person to get to a place you are both happy with - so remind them you're trying to come to a mutually beneficial agreement.”

Trying Helping Together Battle Working Together Collaboration

Author:Jessica Bennett

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