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“The vast majority of things parents and kids get in conflict over are highly predictable. We're disagreeing about the same expectations the kid is having difficulty meeting every hour, every day, every week. Because it's predictable, we can have these conversations proactively. That is very hard for people.”

Quote by Ross W. Greene

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Ross W. Greene is a renowned psychologist and author, known for his contributions to the field of child and adolescent behavior issues. His books, 'The Lost Boy: How to Understand and Help the Challenging Child' and 'Social Emotional Learning: How to Help All Children Succeed in School and Life,' have had a profound impact on educators and parents. more

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