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“DENIAL OF EMOTIONS Our culture does not handle emotions well. We like folks to be happy and fine. We learn rituals of acting happy and fine at an early age. I can remember many times telling people "I'm fine" when I felt like the world was caving in on me. I often think of Senator Muskie who cried on the campaign trail when running for president. From that moment on he was history. We don't want a president who has emotions. We would rather have one that can act! Emotions are certainly not acceptable in the workplace. True expression of any emotions that are not "positive" are met with disdain.”

Quote by John Bradshaw

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Healing the Shame that Binds You

This book explores the nature of shame and its impact on individuals, offering strategies for healing and personal growth. more

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John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw was an American educator known for his research on family and interpersonal relationships. His work focused on family systems theory, particularly in the areas of family emotional expression and communication. Bradshaw's contributions have had a profound impact on the fields of personal growth and family therapy. more

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