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Bessel van der Kolk
Bessel van der Kolk

Bessel van der Kolk is a renowned psychologist and author specializing in the study and treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). His work has had a profound impact on understanding the psychological effects of trauma and how to effectively treat trauma survivors. more

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“All minds, except such as are delivered from doubt by dulness of sensibility, must be subject to this recurring conflict where the many-twisted conditions of life have forbidden the fulfilment of a bond. For in strictness there is no replacing of relations: the presence of the new does not nullify the failure and breach of the old. Life has lost its perfection: it has been maimed; and until the wounds are quite scarred, conscience continually casts backward, doubting glances.”

“I accepted the imperfections and broken parts of myself and in the process learned to accept the beauty in my brokenness. Those who saw themselves reflected in the scattered pieces of my exposed life felt drawn, in spite of themselves, to play a part in my healing. Every friend I made in those years helped and healed me in myriad ways.”

“Wherever I am, whatever else I'm doing, you're in my thoughts. Always. Whatever seeds you plant will have my eye on them. Whatever plants you make I'll cheer for you. Whatever kind of person you become, no matter how different from my daydreams, I will treasure you. No matter how lonely you ever have felt, I've been there, and no matter how dark things get as you grow older, I'll be there as well. You are my favourite person in the world and the thing I am proudest of. Love you forever, Mom”

“The suggested benefits of spirituality at the time of coping also include providing a source of comfort and means of healing from the traumatic experience; offering hope and optimism; giving meaning and purpose to the event; providing a framework for coming to grips with limits of personal knowledge, control, and resources; offering an external framework of control; and providing a way to 'transcend' the experience.”