“In a difficult marriage, both of us have failed each other. Even though one may be the major problem,you also have failed often in the way you have responded to them, the way you have treated them, in the way you have handled your hurt and your pain.” WayMayProblemPainDifficultHurtMajorsTreatedMajor Problems Author:Gary Chapman
“Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going to have a better relationship, you admitting your part in the dynamics is a step in the road to healing. Because if they see you modeling apology, for example, and they see you modeling love, they may well get the idea that maybe they need to apologize.” IfsNeedsWellsMayLittlesIdeasSometimesHardHealingStepsExampleApologyApologizingSpouseModelingAdmittingDynamicsCulprit Author:Gary Chapman
“Love is the most powerful weapon in the world for good. I really believe that.” WorldBelieveLove IsPowerfulWeaponsMost PowerfulPowerful Weapons Author:Gary Chapman
“We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with the help of God, consistently speak their love language no matter how they are treated.” IfsNeedsMatterHelpingSpeakLanguageDifficultTreatedConsistentlySpouseNeed Love Author:Gary Chapman
“Mankind must put an end to war before war puts an end to mankind.” InspirationalWarEndsStrongPeaceMankindAccountabilityPro War Author:John F. Kennedy
“Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic need in their life, the need for love, and they know they don't deserve love many times.” PeopleKnowsNeedsLongDifficultDeserveMeetingsHaulBasic NeedsLong HaulReciprocateDeserve Love Author:Gary Chapman
“Physically abusive and verbally abuse marriages are very, very difficult situations. I fully understand people in those kinds of marriages who think there is no hope. I also know that the advice that is given by most people is simply... get out of there as fast as you can.” PeopleThinkingKnowsKindGivenDifficultSituationAdviceAbuseNo HopeAbusiveDifficult Situations Author:Gary Chapman
“The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not going to change until they are pushed in a corner.” IfsWellsMayCornersBeing TrueAdviseAbusersTender Love Author:Gary Chapman
“Very few alcoholics get into a treatment program until they are at the end of the rope, often when they feel like they are about to lose something that is important to them, namely a wife or their family. The same is true with those who are physically and verbally abusive.” FeelsImportantEndsLosesWifeProgramTreatmentRopeAlcoholicsAbusive Author:Gary Chapman
“The pattern often has been entrenched since childhood... [abusive people] don't think that there is anything wrong with them because that is the way they were brought up in their family.” PeopleThinkingWayHas BeensChildhoodPatternsAbusive Author:Gary Chapman