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“That’s what children eventually were for their aging parents: custodians of technology, free personal IT departments keeping them from disappearing forever from the universal cloud.”

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Book:Orient
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Orient

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Christopher Bollen
Christopher Bollen

Christopher Bollen, born on November 26, 1975, is an accomplished American novelist known for his distinctive narrative style and profound insights into modern society. more

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