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“Parents are never forgiven for not giving just the right response at the appropriate moment. Or, rather, there are particular times in the adolescent's or young adult's life, when a certain response is needed, and this need is not met, and the failure to meet this need is forever remembered, and is never forgiven.”

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Terri E. Apter is a British writer born on February 28, 1949. Her works span various fields, including psychology, gender studies, and literary criticism. more

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