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“An honest goodbye is one that does not seek excuses or reasons, or explanations of any kind. Ultimately, it is not because of this or that that we part from a lover. Far from being an orderly linear progression, causes and effects form a complex web of interacting forces that together manifest in this or that result, which in its turn becomes part of the web and contributes to whatever comes next. The web itself is as broad and deep as the ocean. Behind every event, no matter how small, is a universe of causative factors stretching back through time as well as space. So let us rather bow to the fact and the mystery of what is before us, whatever it may be, and embrace its reality, regardless of its origins, without trying to control it by explaining it away.”

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Book:Ten Poems to Say Goodbye
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Ten Poems to Say Goodbye

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Roger Housden

Roger Housden is a British author born on August 1, 1945. His works span poetry, prose, and novels, known for their profound philosophical insights and unique literary style. more

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