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Quote by Deborah Tannen

“In an ongoing relationship, each current criticism packs the punches of all the others that have gone before.”

Book:That's not what I meant!: how conversational style makes or breaks your relations with others

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That's not what I meant!: how conversational style makes or breaks your relations with others

The book delves into the intricacies of communication, examining how different conversational approaches can either strengthen or damage interpersonal connections. more

Author

Deborah Tannen

Deborah Tannen, born on June 7, 1945, is an accomplished American linguist and professor. Her research focuses on the relationship between gender and language, particularly the differences in communication between men and women. Tannen's book 'You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation' has become a bestseller, profoundly impacting the public's understanding of gender communication differences. more

“When those closest to us respond to events differently than we do, when they seem to see the same scene as part of a different play, when they say things that we could not imagine saying in the same circumstances, the ground on which we stand seems to tremble and our footing is suddenly unsure.”

Different Play Seems Imagine Events Circumstances Scene Closest Unsure

Author:Deborah Tannen

“Innocence is like a dumb leper who has lost his bell, wandering the world, meaning no harm.”

World Literature Lost Harm Wander Dumb Innocence Bells Wiser Leper Prudishness

Author:Graham Greene

“The one who decides who goes ahead has the upper hand, regardless of who gets to go. This is why many women do not feel empowered by such privileges as having doors held open for them. The advantage of going first through the door is less salient to them than the disadvantage of being granted the right to walk through a door by someone who is framed, by his magnanimous gesture, as the arbiter of the right-of-way.”