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“Power consists in making oneself the goal of another person's social instincts, without seeking to satisfy one's own social instincts through him. The other then does everything one asks. Powerlessness consists in wanting or having to satisfy one's social instincts through another person whose social instincts one has not succeeded in concentrating on oneself - one then does everything the other asks.”

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Book:The Polygamous Sex
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The Polygamous Sex

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Esther Vilar
Esther Vilar

Esther Vilar, born on September 16, 1935, is a renowned writer. Her works mainly discuss gender, social structures, and political issues, known for their unique perspective and profound insights. more

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Book:The Polygamous Sex
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Book:Bigger than All the Night Sky: The Start of Spiritual Awakening. A Memoir.
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