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“My family subscribed to this rigid belief system. They were unaware of the reality that gender, like sexuality, exists on a spectrum. By punishing me, they were performing the socially sanctioned practice of hammering the girl out of me, replacing her with tenets of gender-appropriate behavior. Though I would grow up to fit neatly into the binary, I believe in self-determination, autonomy, in people having the freedom to proclaim who they are and define gender for themselves. Our genders are as unique as we are. No one's definition is the same, and compartmentalizing a person as either a boy or a girl based entirely on the appearance of genitalia at birth undercuts our complex life experiences.”

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Book:Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More
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Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More

This memoir delves into the author's experiences and reflections on gender identity, personal growth, and the complexities of love and life. more

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Janet Mock
Janet Mock

Janet Mock is a writer, actress, and activist known for her profound insights into gender, race, and identity. She gained widespread attention for her memoir, 'Red Hair Girl,' which details her journey from a transgender woman to a public figure. more

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Book:Treatment of Complex Trauma: A Sequenced, Relationship-Based Approach
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