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“Any pain or tension that we do not transform we will transmit. In the face of jealousy, anger, bitterness, and hatred we must be like water purifiers, holding the poisons and toxins inside of us and giving back just the pure water, rather than being like electrical cords that simply pass on the energy that flows through them.”

Quote by Ronald Rolheiser

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Ronald Rolheiser
Ronald Rolheiser

Ronald Rolheiser is a renowned writer, theologian, and spiritual leader. His work spans across various fields including religion, philosophy, psychology, and spirituality, and has been widely appreciated by readers around the world. more

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