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“Everything that isn't gospel is law. Let us say it again: Everything that isn't gospel is law. Every way we try to make our kids good that isn't rooted in the good news of the life, death, ressurection, and assension of Jesus Christ is damnable, crushing, despair-breeding, Pharisee-producing law. We won't get the results we want from the law. We'll get either shallow self-righteousness or blazing rebellion or both (frequently from the same kid on the same day!). We'll get moralistic kids who are cold and hypocritical and who look down on others (and could easily become Mormons), or you'll get teens who are rebellious and self-indulgent and who can't wait to get out of the house. We have to remember that in the life of our unregenerate children, the law is given for one reason only: to crush their self-confidence and drive them to Christ.”

Quote by Elyse Fitzpatrick

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Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

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Elyse Fitzpatrick
Elyse Fitzpatrick

Elyse Fitzpatrick is an American author born in 1950. Her works primarily focus on Christian faith, family life, and spiritual growth. Fitzpatrick is known for her profound spiritual insights and in-depth biblical interpretations. more

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