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“Ya Ummi(my mother), I cannot live my life with a woman who has no key to my mind and does not share my concerns. She cannot - will not - read anything. She shrugs off the grave problems of the day and asks if I think her new tablecloth is pretty. We are living in difficult times and it is not enough for a person to be interested in his home and his job - in his own personal life. I need my partner to be someone to whom I can turn, confident of her sympathy, believing her when she tells me I'm in the wrong, strengthened when she tells me I'm in the right. I want to love, and be loved back - but what I see is not love or companionship but a sort of transacton of convenience santioned by religion and society and I do not want it.”

Quote by Ahdaf Soueif

Work

The Map of Love

A story that intertwines personal and historical narratives, focusing on the complexities of romantic relationships and the passage of time. more

Author

Ahdaf Soueif
Ahdaf Soueif

Ahdaf Soueif, born on March 23, 1950, is an esteemed Egyptian novelist. Her works are known for their profound insight and rich imagination, exploring cultural, historical, and social issues in the Middle East. more

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