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“Separation was the thing I'd been dreading the most these past few years, and I'd been in denial that it was a fact of life. Refusing to let go, I'd practically thrown a temper tantrum. What's worse, my attempts to avoid separation had only hastened it. It explained why I'd always been so quick to lash out at those I loved.”

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Notes of a Crocodile

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Qiu Miaojin
Qiu Miaojin

Qiu Miaojin (1969-1995) was a prominent Taiwanese novelist known for her groundbreaking works exploring lesbian relationships and identity. Her acclaimed novel "Notes of a Crocodile" is considered a landmark in Chinese-language LGBTQ+ literature. Born on May 29, 1969, she took her own life in Paris at age 26. Despite her short life, her literary contributions have had lasting impact on Chinese-language literature and queer studies. more

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