“Back in Syria, we’d never gave anything directly to anyone. We’d give to a charity and then they’d make sure it got to people in need. That way no one felt looked down on. I remind myself how lucky we are to have found such a generous new friends. I try to push the uncomfortable thoughts away, but I can’t help it. It’s charity and it hurts.”
Source: Butterfly: From Refugee to Olympian, My Story of Rescue, Hope and Triumph
“পৃথিবীর জেলখানাগুলোতে যত না কয়েদী আছে, তার চেয়ে বেশী কয়েদী আছে মানুষের মনে।”
“...if I was willing to sound cynical - that the only reason that psychiatrists diagnose their clients is so that insurance companies can pay the bills, and I actually believe that that's more true than the claim that the psychiatric diagnostic categories actually capture the essence of the person's problems.”
“As a human being, you can trust yourself to know when you’re emotionally satisfied. You know when you’ve been given full measure. You aren’t a bottomless pits of ceaseless demands. You can trust the inner prompts that tell you when something is missing.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents / Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents
“(about emotionally immature people) ...their egocentrism is more like the self-preoccupation of someone with a chronic pain condition, rather than someone who can’t get enough of himself or herself.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“Don't confuse poor decision-making with destiny. Own your mistakes. It’s ok; we all make them. Learn from them so they can empower you!”
Source: Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“The key to ultimate happiness and fulfillment lies within our own transformation. The more we learn and grow and evolve as individuals, the more we will find happiness and satisfaction in relationships, work and life.”
“Emotionally immature adults communicate feelings in this same primitive way. As parents, when they’re distressed they upset their children and everyone around them, typically with the result that others are willing to do anything to make them feel better. In this role reversal, the child catches the contagion of the parent’s distress and feels responsible for making the parent feel better. However, if the upset parent isn’t trying to understand his or her own feelings, nothing ever gets resolved. Instead the upsetting feelings just get spread around to others,”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“It’s as though they (emotionally immature people) think they’re off the hook if others don’t spell out their pain or difficulty in words. They believe that they aren’t required to be tuned in to others’ feelings. However, emotionally mature people are almost always sensitive to others, knowing this is simply part of having good relationships.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“It wasn’t some sort of insufficiency
in you that made your parent pay more attention to your sibling;
rather, it’s likely that you weren’t dependent enough to trigger your parent’s
enmeshment instincts.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents