“Don't confuse poor decision-making with destiny. Own your mistakes. It’s ok; we all make them. Learn from them so they can empower you!”
Source: Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“The key to ultimate happiness and fulfillment lies within our own transformation. The more we learn and grow and evolve as individuals, the more we will find happiness and satisfaction in relationships, work and life.”
“Emotionally immature adults communicate feelings in this same primitive way. As parents, when they’re distressed they upset their children and everyone around them, typically with the result that others are willing to do anything to make them feel better. In this role reversal, the child catches the contagion of the parent’s distress and feels responsible for making the parent feel better. However, if the upset parent isn’t trying to understand his or her own feelings, nothing ever gets resolved. Instead the upsetting feelings just get spread around to others,”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“It’s as though they (emotionally immature people) think they’re off the hook if others don’t spell out their pain or difficulty in words. They believe that they aren’t required to be tuned in to others’ feelings. However, emotionally mature people are almost always sensitive to others, knowing this is simply part of having good relationships.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“It wasn’t some sort of insufficiency
in you that made your parent pay more attention to your sibling;
rather, it’s likely that you weren’t dependent enough to trigger your parent’s
enmeshment instincts.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“Emotional parents (the emotionally immature type) are the most infantile of the four types. They give the impression that they need to be watched over and handled carefully. It doesn’t take much to upset them, and then everyone in the family scrambles to soothe them. When emotional parents disintegrate, they take their children with them into their personal meltdown. Their children experience their despair, rage, or hatred in all its intensity. It’s no wonder that everyone in the family feels like they’re walking on eggshells. These parents’ emotional instability is the most predictable thing about them.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“Emotional parents (the emotionally immature type) are the most infantile of the four types. They give the impression that they need to be watched over and handled carefully. It doesn’t take much to upset them, and then everyone in the family scrambles to soothe them. When emotional parents disintegrate, they take their children with them into their personal meltdown. Their children experience their despair, rage, or hatred in all its intensity. It’s no wonder that everyone in the family feels like they’re walking on eggshells. These parents’ emotional instability is the most predictable thing about them. (...) People are nervous around them because their emotions can escalate so quickly, and because it’s so frightening to see someone you know come unglued. Suicide threats are especially terrifying to children, who feel the crushing burden of trying to keep their parent alive but don’t know what to do.”
Source: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
“I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again.
However the problem wasn't with the vase, or even that the vases kept breaking. The problem was that I kept putting them on the edge of tables.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent. We are made to seek what's eternal.”
Source: Reclaim Your Heart: Personal Insights on Breaking Free from Life's Shackles
“Narcissists are blamers, they are not capable of taking responsibility. At first you
know it is not your fault, over time you get exhausted from trying to explain your
innocence and you surrender to the lies, just to keep the peace.”